Enduring a painful experience can leave you feeling stuck in life. Maybe you’ve gone through a difficult breakup or separation. Perhaps you lived through a period of ongoing trauma that felt like it would never end. You might have dealt with a serious physical injury or illness, or you might have lost a loved one.
There is no escaping pain in life. However, the way you deal with the aftermath can make all of the difference. It might be hard to see right now, but pain can grant you the opportunity to grow. Here’s how to process your pain so that you can start looking forward to your next chapter in life.
Forgive Yourself
You may feel like you’re at fault for what happened to you. In many cases, this isn’t entirely true. Suffering isn’t a punishment for doing something wrong. Painful events can happen to anyone without a concrete reason. Ultimately, this is why part of moving on involves simply forgiving yourself, even if you made mistakes. If you’ve realized that you do need to make amends with someone else who was hurt by the situation, you can always reach out to apologize and check in on them. This can help you along your own healing process.
Reflect on Lessons Learned
Experience can be a brutal teacher. However, everyone has to learn certain lessons through experiences that felt like setbacks at the time. Reflecting on what your pain can teach you can actually be a powerful aspect of the healing process. You may even want to get out a journal to write down what the experience taught you. Overall, you can learn a lot about yourself and the world through the challenges you’ve faced.
Get Creative
What if you could channel your pain into art? Give yourself permission to get creative and explore your experiences through artwork. There are plenty of creative mediums you could use to express yourself, from painting to writing to music to dance. Sometimes, finding a way to express what you’ve been through and what you’re feeling now can bring you a sense of closure. Furthermore, if you choose to show your work to other people, you never know who will resonate with your creative expression.
Pursue Bigger Goals
Do you ever find yourself ruminating on your past experiences? Perhaps you get stuck in thought cycles relating to everything you went through, and you don’t know how to break out of them. Rumination can drag you down and make you feel like you’ll never move forward. Setting larger goals is one way to stop this cycle. By focusing your attention on something that excites you, you may find that it’s easier to avoid ruminating. Plus, even taking small steps towards a larger goal can help you see that there is life after pain.
Work With a Therapist
You don’t have to process your pain on your own. What if you’ve been living with this pain for quite some time, and you feel like you’ve done everything in your power to heal with little improvement? Working with a therapist can be very beneficial – and it is never too late to book a session and start working on yourself. You might be nervous about talking to a therapist for the first time. Yet you may be surprised by how much lighter you feel after your first session. Talking to a therapist gives you a safe space to express yourself honestly.
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